Hello Everyone,
I think I understand what you mean, Joyce. I think what you are talking about is ethics versus morals. Ethical situations occur from an outward event and morals leads your personal actions regarding that event. When the two conflict, this is when you may lost sleep. In property management, I can say, for me, there have been times when the two have sparred but I handle questionable situations according to me principles because ultimately I have to live with myself.
I know someone who is fond of saying that his name is the only thing he has in the end and he wants his actions to reflect favorably on his name. That's a good motto to live by; however, when it comes to one's boss (or Owner or management company) directing you to do something that goes against your principles, that is when you either stand up for your principles or become a hypocrite. That being said, I know people can lose their jobs if disobeying an order.
Evictions are a source of this kind of stress, as others have said. Other sources of conflict may be: taking more of someone's security deposit than necessary; lying that a Resident did not pay when they did (and someone in your office kept the money); allowing an employee to do personal business on company time (maintenance on the manager's home, for example); letting people take off with pay and not reporting it or getting proper authorization; allowing a friend to live in a unit but keeping it as a vacant on the books or the opposite, charging someone rent, pocketing it, and not reporting it.
Ultimately, for dilemmas like these, there is more of a black and white reasonableness, so it should not be too hard to know what to do, even if it means the loss of your job. A person's integrity is a founding strength of character, honesty, and self esteem. I choose my internal voice of right, wrong, what is reasonable, and what is just over what the Owner/PMC dictates, if that voice inside my heart tells me not to compromise my principles.