Ghost kid -----or is it??!

As a policy maker, I am very comfortable making certain decisions. If you ask me about a Final Account Statement that someone is questioning, the policy regarding late payers, and what to do if you get military orders, I am happy to opine confidently and, if there isn't a policy, I will draft one if it seems like it will be a frequent happening and our team needs directions on it.

But when the stakes are high, sometimes I get stuck.

I've noticed usually it is unfamiliar territory, an emotional decision, or when something is pricy or challenging. I think you'll agree that it's reasonable to pause and think at these times, but how long is too long to ponder a decision? How do you know if you are thinking things through or delaying the decision because you don't want to make it?

I've been thinking about this a lot because I am an analytical person. I will think through pros and cons and I appreciate consultation and discussion as part of the decision making process. But sometimes, I know I'm just delaying. I'm seeking another opinion to stack on the scale to justify my already-made decision.

So I've thought through some of my hurdles and thought I would "consult" my colleagues and work on solutions to these three fears.

• Fear of change
• Fear of failure
• Fear of being wrong

And I've made a game plan:

1. Be more positive: I'm not exactly a pessimist, but my first thoughts when presented with a plan are what I perceive as holes that need plugged. This is sometimes perceived as being negative, even by myself. I will stop thinking of them as holes and think of them as steps to the goal, and contribute useful solutions to them (instead of just pointing them out).
2. Think and talk through the worst case scenario. Usually it's not catastrophic. Preparing for the worst helps me face my fears.
3. Set deadlines for decisions.
4. Get down and dirty with the fact that I can make mistakes, and that doesn't mean I am a failure. Jesus take the wheel, that's the hardest one. I was a straight A student. I do things right. I succeed. It's hard to look at mistakes as not failures, but opportunities to learn and improve. This is the one I shall struggle with and I am journaling and working on changing my mind regarding mistakes.

What do you do to overcome your inertia when it comes to making tough decisions? How do you push yourself to try new? How do you get over your fear of failing? Please, please share your thoughts.