Julia, I am going on what you have written and you are receiving good feedback from everyone based upon the information that you have given. I would like to ask a question as to who has been there longer. I am assuming that she has and you came on new? If so, then there are a whole set of dynamics that comes with this.
When you came on board did you do a group and then an individual meeting with your folks? Talk about what your vision and expectations were for the staff and the conducting of business? Then individual meetings to find out about each individual on what they seen as very right and wrong with the properties and what they would do to make things better. Talk to them about their personal goals, short and long term and what you can do to support them?
Do you do quarterly counseling sessions with each of your staff members as to what they are doing good on and what they need to improve on? In doing this and there are areas they need to improve on, do you have the information needed in order to assist them on where to go, look, and or do in order to improve?
Doing quarterly performance counseling’s and monthly if there were areas which were negative to talk over the negative and working on those, so that in the next performance counseling it is a non issue. In these sessions keep in mind you also want feedback as well. If it is done affectively, then at annual counseling time there are no surprises.
Also legally, if there is an issue, you have documentation which supports and protects the management and you. You also want to ensure that when there is a disciplinary action which requires a negative counseling that it is done right away. Give them a spot also where they can do a rebuttal. Have them sign it. Ensure that there is a portion on which reads that by them signing it, that it is not an admission of guilt, but that they were talked to about the issue. If they refuse to sign, then get your assistant manager to witness it, or your higher that they can sign it that in fact the areas were brought to the person’s attention in person.
Keep, the items locked away and ensure the person also gets a copy. You can also, if your company has a lawyer and have the items reviewed before hand is also that extra little step. So, if you have to go to court, everything is covered.
Then the last thing is that we as manager and leaders are not always right and we have our failings. We do not have to like someone in order to work with them. We do need to ensure that we give them the same time and rights as that person we really care about. I have seen many leaders see a person and they see red and even when the other person is trying it is not seen because of some past wrong or mistake. I always had a confidant that I respected and would be brutally honest with me if I was out in left field. Being close to something can sometimes blind us to the big picture.
One thing for sure is you came on here to get some opinions and that speaks volumes. The thing is if you get what you do not want to hear, but it is the right thing what will you do with it as that also speaks volumes on the kind of leader you are as well.
I have had personnel while I was in the military that would have been thrown out of the Army, but all they needed was someone to be fair and really listen. Out of all that I received there were only a couple lost causes. They has been burnt so many times until, they did not trust anyone.