How on earth does a person get used to losing a resident?

How on earth does a person get used to losing a resident?

Never for the social ones, some I hardly knew but the ones we got to know well, it always sucks..

I am so sorry... It is never an easy thing to go through...

You don't. It hurts every time

I still think of some of my residents that I lost. So sorry for your loss.

It would mean you weren't human. I'm sorry for your loss. Name a tree or something after them so they are always part of the community.

Thanks everybody. I knew, demographically, what I was in for. It still really sucks though.

A soul that has moved on. Still painful.. but rejoice

It’s so not easy. This past year I lost a resident that lived in our community for 19 years. He was a huge part of everyone there.

I love planting the tree idea. A wonderful living memorial!!

You don't. You just honestly honor their spirit to keep the one that comes next going. Positive energy is always the best. Good Karma

I worked senior living for 6 years. It never got any easier and finally was a large part of why I left that the field.
But the impact I know I had on them and their family made every loss a little easier.

You don't "get used" to it. You just adjust to it .

I was a leasing agent at a property back in 2014. We had this one resident who had lived there a long time. He loved to come in EVERY morning for coffee and just chit chat with us. He lived by himself and was lonely all the time. We get a call from his son that he had come over to take his dad to his doctors appointment and found him unresponsive in his bed. 911 was called but they could not save him. That was so hard to hear and we all had a hard time accepting it.

Never easy. The ones that hit me the hardest were suicides.

I still think about the ones I’ve lost and it’s been 10+ years.

As a vendor I go to a lot of senior properties, the one thing all the manger says is the hardest part of the job is you get attached to the residents. Answer to your question you don’t

You do not - I have been a PM 34 years never gets easier

Sorry for your loss. The resident will come visit in the form of hummingbird or butterfly and say hello when you see the.. Gone but never forgotten

The minute it's easy.... time to make a career change.

We found a long-term resident that I've known for 26 years that ended his own life last week. It's very difficult and just heartbreaking.

I am so sorry and you dont, I can give you the sugar coated version but being doing this 30 years. I can remember the majority of those that I have lost. No longer on site but I am there for my team.

They become a part of our family when you think about it. When others have asked what is it you love about your job in PM....hands down “the people”. We become the mayors of our communities, the moms or dads of the latch key children, the providers of shelter, a shoulder to cry on and at times the only kind smile someone receives on a daily basis. Who wouldn’t want all of that wrapped up in one? It takes special people to do what we do and a big heart. That’s why the loss is so deep. You will grieve, your heart will be heavy for sometime. Maybe plant a tree in their honor by your office...♥️ ((HUGS))

My heart I wish I had advice but I do not. Im just relieved that someone else cares as much as I do. Loss is always hard.

I understand your loss and what you feel, however it becomes a Heartache and it makes you think what our destiny is to become of us, it converts into a custom... I am a Director for a retirement facility and it's very hard to get attached to your residents and then for our good father to take them home with him, all we have left is memories and a hurt Heart, My advise to you is to think that while they were in the living you, we did everything possible to make them happy in their final days. that should give you the comfort and satisfaction that you're looking for..... God-bless you my friend and continue to do what you do I'm so glad that someone else cares.

I would struggle with that a lot. Hugs!

One does not get used to it
I have found I have learned to appreciate every day.

I struggled with that in the early years. You gave him a wonderful place to live and you seem like a very caring manager and I agree with Mr. Douglas above.

You don’t. You have to just focus on the fact that you each made each other’s lives better. We need more people who are willing to give their hearts...even when they’re repeatedly broken.

You don’t. Plain and simple. What you do is feel honored to have been able to be a part of their life and smile because you have sweet memories. I’m a PM for senior housing and I grieve each loss. But what a wonderful job we have to be able to care so deeply about someone who would otherwise be a stranger. My sincere condolences.